The Resilience Factor: Eileen Lichtenstein

Being resilient in body, mind and spirit is key to being happy and successful in all areas of life. Emotionally, it’s the opposite of being “stuck in a rut” and it’s about being positive. Physically, it can translate to strength and flexibility. Spiritually it can indicate faith with the ability to maintain hope in tumultuous times.  It’s about staying centered and grounded and making “right” choices. The definition of "resilience" is “springing back into shape, position . . . after being stretched, bent or compressed” and “recovering strength and spirits quickly" according to Webster’s New World Dictionary (1982).

So, you may be asking yourself, how does one maintain emotional-spiritual equilibrium and resiliency when things can be unpredictable and often in crisis mode? It’s not easy, and takes some work. It’s easy to create positive patterns and habits when life is going smoothly. It can be quite challenging while being swept away by negative forces.  A good mentor/coach and practice is important, and the practice will create a “spill-over” effect into life situations.

Many people, including myself, have learned how to be more resilient. There are skill sets of meditation, relaxation breathing, visualization and “tapping” (EFT- Emotional Freedom Techniques) that all add into helping an individual maintain focus and be positive. Exercising, eating healthfully and maintaining healthy relationships are naturally fortifying. Most people are not born resilient, but do have the capacity to learn how to be this way. 

Here are a few tips to accelerate the process:
  • Think of possibilities from different perspectives
  • Stop talking in absolutes. Eliminate the words nothing and never from self talk
  • Set specific goals that are attainable
  • When you are feeling down due to personal circumstances, take stock of your strengths.
  • Lower the stakes, not the standards: Don’t have your whole life riding on the outcome of one event
  • Savor small triumphs, steps leading to the bigger picture
  • Set aside self blame and learn from your mistakes
  • Surround yourself with positive people
  • Do not read, watch or listen to the news if you become “too upset”
  • Take a few minutes each day to reflect on your feelings
  • Cultivate generosity and gratitude

You are the only one who can control your attitude. By focusing on what is strong and enduring and seeing your potential, you can take calculated risks and overcome challenges. It takes an open, creative mind free from anxiety to pick up on opportunities. They are out there ready to be accessed by your positive and resilient radar.

Shared by Dr. Cheryl Cottle of CPC Women in Business

The Resilience Factor by Eileen Lichtenstein won our Blog Post Contest for September, 2011

Eileen Lichtenstein is the President of  She offers complimentary coaching consultations via telephone and sees individual coaching clients and small groups at her Baldwin location and on site to facilitate workshops and motivational seminars, combining  mind body modalities with traditional coaching methods.  Eileen also coaches via telephone and Skype.  Contact Eileen:  1-516 623 4353